My partner Graham died in the year 2000 from sepsis. I am so pleased that awareness is being raised of this awful condition, which gives no time to indecision before it is too late and death occurs.
Graham was a fit and healthy man aged 44 and had been out for a meal with work colleagues when on the Thursday morning he awoke complaining of pain in his elbow. Throughout the day he complained of having a headache and went to bed; this continued into Friday and we just thought he had flu.
On Saturday morning I was up and busy with our daughter when he came downstairs and showed me his arm which was now very swollen. Graham drove to his GP’s surgery and returned home with antibiotics. The GP had also drawn around the swelling using a ball-point pen and advised Graham that if he felt worse he should phone the out of hours GP service.
During that day he stayed in bed still feeling unwell, that evening he said his arm felt a little better and not so stiff although he still felt like he had the flu. I asked whether he wanted to visit the out of hours GP but he said no… if only I had known what I know now, that we didnt have time to wait.
Graham was up all night with diarhorrea and was able to walk to the bathroom – this made me think that things weren’t too bad…
Graham eventually collapsed and I phoned the ambulance but they seemed unsure of what was wrong and got him dressed whilst they monitored him. Shortly afterward, he died upstairs whilst I tried to amuse my daughter downstairs.
I cannot explain the utter devastation I felt and the confusion with no answers to what happened, I could not understand what had happened and no-one seemed to be able to give me any reason as to why he had died. I eventually asked for an inquest and after doing endless research myself it was confirmed that graham had died from sepsis due to an infection in his spleen.
That was 12 years ago this march 26th. Yes’ life has gone on for my daughter’s sake, but I cannot still help but feel that Graham should not have died, and my daughter has had to grow up without her dad around, and I have lived with the feeling that I should have done something sooner. This still haunts me to this day.